The start of a new year often comes with ambitious resolutions, and for many, “write a book” is at the top of the list. This month in particular, you might have an inbox full of “Write your book NOW!” messages from people like... well... me, but let’s pause for a moment.
Is this really the right time for you to take on such a massive commitment?
I thought long and hard about whether to write this as it's counterintuitive to my business, but I'm a writer as well as an Author Accelerator book coach, and I know how it feels to be overwhelmed at times, especially when things at home and/or work take off. Why add guilt to stress?!
Yes, writing a book is a rewarding journey, but it’s also an all-consuming one. And for some people, the kindest, smartest choice is to press pause. Here’s why giving yourself permission not to write a book this year might be the best decision you make.
Unrealistic Expectations About Time
We all have the same 24 hours in a day, but let’s be honest—how many of those hours are truly free? If your calendar is already packed with work, family commitments, or personal goals, squeezing in time to write might only add stress. Writing a book takes sustained focus and energy, and if your plate is overflowing, it’s okay to recognise that now isn’t the right time.
Yes, look for time where you can - perhaps ditch the doomscrolling - but if you're in a position where you don't even have time to wash your hair, why pile on even wilder expectations of the time you can devote to writing?
Time management experts suggest prioritising your most meaningful goals. If writing isn’t realistic this year, focus on something else that aligns with your current capacity.
You Think You "Should" Write a Book
Without a clear purpose driving you forward, it’s easy to lose motivation. Are you writing because you feel passionate about your story or because you think you should write a book? If it’s the latter, consider whether you’re taking on this goal for the wrong reasons. There’s no shame in waiting until you feel truly ready.
Reflect on your motivations and ask, “Why do I want to write this book?” If the answer isn’t compelling, it might be a sign to revisit this goal later.
As an aside, Why do I want to write this book? is the first question I ask my clients in my Story Development offering, and the clients who think they should write a book struggle right from the start.
You’re in a Season of Healing or Growth
Life has its seasons, and some of them are better suited for writing than others. If you’re in a period of emotional healing, personal transformation, or major life changes, it’s okay to focus on those first. Writing can wait until you’re in a more stable, grounded place.
Consider journaling, capturing notes for a future project, or writing a short story instead of diving into a full book. This way, you honour your creative impulses without overwhelming yourself.
You’re Overcommitted to Other Projects
Maybe writing a book isn’t the only thing you’ve set out to do this year. If you’re juggling multiple big goals—starting a business, going back to school, or tackling a major life event—adding a book to the mix might dilute your energy. Prioritising one goal at a time ensures you give it the attention it deserves.
List your top three priorities for the year. If writing doesn’t make the cut, that’s okay—it’ll still be there when you’re ready.
The Advantages of Giving Yourself Permission to Not Write Your Book This Year
Reduced Stress and Overwhelm
Letting go of the pressure to write a book can significantly lighten your mental and emotional load. Writing is a major commitment that requires consistent time and energy, and removing it from your to-do list frees you to focus on other priorities without guilt or anxiety. By easing the pressure, you create space for better mental health and more clarity in your daily life.
Time to Reflect and Refine Your Ideas
Sometimes, stepping back from the act of writing allows you to think more deeply about the story you want to tell or the purpose behind your book. With no deadlines looming, you can explore your ideas at your own pace, making them stronger and more compelling for when you’re ready to start.
I once worked on a completely improvised play. As rehearsals went on, the cast - myself included - expected that we'd be handed scripts of what we'd settled on. We weren't. And the reason why? "If you can't remember the lines, they probably weren't that important anyway."
Thinking about your story, instead of writing it, might lead you to a clearer, more refined concept that will make the writing process smoother when the time comes.
Opportunities to Develop Skills
If you’re not actively writing a book, you can use the time to build your craft in other ways. Whether it’s taking a writing course, reading widely (like a writer, not just a reader), or experimenting with smaller projects like short stories or essays, this period of growth can make you a stronger writer. You gain valuable experience and tools that can improve your writing and storytelling skills, setting you up for greater success later.
Focus on Other Goals
Life is full of competing priorities, and setting aside book writing might allow you to pursue other important goals—whether professional, personal, or creative. Maybe it’s the year to focus on career advancement, a new hobby, or strengthening relationships. By making progress in other areas of your life, you can enrich your perspective and provide inspiration for future writing.
Avoiding Burnout
If your schedule is already packed or you’ve been pushing yourself too hard, adding a book project can lead to burnout. Giving yourself permission to pause prevents overextending yourself and ensures that you can approach writing with energy and enthusiasm when you’re ready. Preserve your creative passion and avoid associating writing with exhaustion or frustration!
Improved Self-Compassion
I'm all about being kind to ourselves!
Choosing not to write a book this year can be a powerful act of self-care. It’s a way of acknowledging your current limitations and being kind to yourself instead of setting yourself up for disappointment or guilt. Build a healthier relationship with your creative process, rooted in understanding and patience rather than self-criticism.
Room for Inspiration to Strike
Sometimes, forcing yourself to write can stifle creativity. By stepping back, you give your mind the freedom to explore, daydream, and make unexpected connections. This could lead to breakthroughs or ideas that wouldn’t have come under pressure. Open yourself to more organic, inspired ideas, which can lead to a more fulfilling writing experience later on.
Strengthened Future Commitment
Deciding not to write a book this year doesn’t mean giving up on the dream. In fact, it can reaffirm your commitment to writing by allowing you to approach it on your own terms, with renewed focus and intention when the time feels right.
When you do start writing, you’ll be more motivated, prepared, and excited about the process.
Final Thoughts
The idea that “everyone has a book in them” might be true, but it doesn’t mean this year is the right time for yours.
By reframing the decision to “not write” as a deliberate, empowering choice, you shift the narrative from one of failure to one of wisdom and care. This mindset can help you—and anyone with big goals—feel more in control and optimistic about your creative journey.
You’re not quitting—writing a book is a big dream, and big dreams deserve your full attention when the time is right. Until then, be kind to yourself, focus on what truly matters, and trust that your story will wait for you.